To Look or Not to Look

A lot of times I'm asked..."Excuse me, what are you looking at?". I quickly respond, in a calm voice, "Uh, um, your extremely low cut shirt and high skirt."  The conversation is usually just as quick as my response. I'm kidding, but it's an intro to an interesting topic. The idea of a man allowing himself to partake on that which is so readily available visually is interesting. Interesting in relation to how woman sometimes respond. Please take note, this not limited to those whom are to be considered unattractive in some circles. It applies to all variations of attractiveness of the "intruder". Women go through all the work of straightening or curling hair, makeup (minimal or over exaggerated), picking out the cutest outfit, sexiest heels or flats, and all the apparel that goes along with it, only to get what they "didn't" expect. A guy appreciating what he sees.

If you go fishing, sometimes you drop the line, and then you pull up a disgusting can. You put it out there again and you pull up a bag. The sun is bearing down on you, all hope seems to be lost and eventually you catch a fish. "Yay"  When girls go out its the same thing, they put themselves out there expecting that great catch and sometimes come up empty or with a disgusting individual. If you don't want the invitations by all those between you and your "catch" don't wear provocative clothing!

OK so some women say, Don, I don't wear provocative clothing and they still approach me with lazy eyes wanting more than I would ever care to give. Well what type of environment are you in? You go to a bar or club, then I'm sorry you have no argument. Once alcohol is introduced to a situation, you cant count on anyone holding back any inhibitions that would have otherwise been restrained in a normal setting. You put yourself in that type of venue, deal with it. Don't like it, leave.

OK, but Don I can't even go to the gym without some pervert staring me down and interrupting my workout. Lets be honest. Girls like to be seen. We all have a deeply rooted need for being accepted, admittedly or not. No one likes to be rejected. So with that being said, we are human, don't act like your not looking too. OK they might separate themselves by doing it in an obvious manner. We all know women are more subtle. But they do it too. So solution to your gym rat problem...walk up to the individual invading your personal space and say "Don't look at me." And for the men, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell a woman isn't into you (be honest with yourself, some men think they are wanted by all women). You get the cues, saying leave alone you creep, do it. If she accepts your advances, go for it.

All in all. Control your environment, control your situations. Control your clothing, control your conversations.